5 Ways of Becoming Comfortable With Self

When was the last time you wanted to spend time with yourself? Most of us are uncomfortable spending time with ourselves. To clarify with an example, it means taking time out for ourselves, either sitting in a park or doing something we enjoy doing, so that we understand our inner self better. Because of our poor self-image, most of us do what others tell us so that we blend in. We do not give weightage to our thoughts and feelings and follow others.

We are always in a comparison zone, where instead of accepting ourselves the way we are, we conform to other people’s standards and thought processes. Being comfortable means stop comparing ourselves with others, acknowledging our choices, and making time for ourselves. Instead of looking outside, we should look inwards at our thoughts and understand what’s going on within ourselves. When we are truly comfortable with ourselves, the need to continuously compare ourselves with others also stops. We need to be satisfied with ourselves and do not do things to impress others.

It may, of course, will take some time, and some effort needs to be put in. The continuous interaction and onslaught of social media defining what we must or should be, rather than limiting our beautiful moment, robs us of the magnificent self. The way forward to truly being comfortable with self is to understand self by defining “what and who” we are and what we want to be.

Here are some of the approaches which we can use to be comfortable with ourselves:

1) Taking Care of Self: It’s the little things that we do that make a big difference. For example, start with creating a list of all the things you wanted to do. This will help you take care of yourself to feel good about yourself. You may then incorporate them into your daily schedule. When you start taking care of yourself, you improve your self-worth.

2) Self Meditation: Take time out to do meditation. Meditation helps you to calm your mind and gradually focus on things that are most important to us. When we acquire knowledge to quieten the mind and watch the process of awareness, it unfolds — it helps us space ourselves from distracting thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

3) Journaling: It’s the practice of writing down your memories, feelings, and thoughts for self-understanding and self-reflection. It’s a journey of self-exploration: studying who you are, what you feel, how you think, and how you perceive life’s daily events and your hidden desires. Journaling is the most effective way of self-help in the world.

4) Accepting Yourself: It is essential to accept who you are. To approve yourself as a whole, which is to accept your imperfections and your perfections. We need to let go and love ourselves unconditionally. We need to Focus on Have’s rather than have-not. Also, we need to be less critical of ourselves and accept ourselves as a whole.

5) Stop Comparing: Comparison is the enemy of Success. Instead of focusing on who you are versus others, focus on your own goals. Evaluate, where are you now versus where you were this time last year? Or even two years back?. Think about the progress made, things you’ve learned, improved, accomplished, and innovated.